A Note from the Garden Journal Volume 1.2
The other night I went over to a friend’s place for a little soiree. Just a small group of people. Those who know me know that I am quite the extrovert and love parties and get-togethers where everyone has a good time. But I’m still not sure they know how to do this in Tennessee. Many such events I have seen here thus far seem at times more of an eccentricity pissing contest than people enjoying people. Fun and frivolity are often replaced by repeated stories of tragedy and soliloquies about the way it was, or the way it should be done by tightrope walkers.
I love these friends of mine but it was like watching TV only I’m not one for TV so I couldn’t help but think of all the things with that time I could do. Like any talk show, it is usually about the host, who does most of the talking. Except when he or she wants to know something about his or her guests, then they get to talk about whatever it was of interest that got them on the show to begin with. This is not I suppose a personal attack, but rather just simply an observation, which is why I'm keeping this vague. The “Talk show party” is enormously passé. The irony came near the end when it was commented by the host on my unusual quietness. As is usually the case, the host shuts others out of the conversation then asks why they have had nothing to say. And unfairly also, I must protest. For I had interjected, responded and done all nearly save having gesticulated during the course of the events of that evening to no avail, at last resigning myself to a quiet sigh of failure. After all, we are only human and I suppose we all have our own ideas of “fun”. I did however have a good friend or two there with whom I did feel I had a fulfilling confabulation or two. We also talked to a couple other souls a bit who had all but disappeared into a corner, the least spoken-to of anyone that evening, which probably means they had the most interesting things to say.
I suppose we live in a culture of hype, where wide-eyed people continually walk around looking for the most marketably-interesting-things-they-can-find-in-ten-seconds-or-less. I’ve been involved in politics for some time, sound bytes are good in places.
This brings me to another topic which will wrap up my Notes from the Garden Journal for this week: I think Nashville might be worse than many with respect to the bigger-better-deal crowd. I have been giving this much thought over the past several months I have been living here. I believe this is in large part due to the entertainment scene that exists here. Not only are a lot of people constantly looking for the glitzy and shiny, but they assume everyone else cares about that as well. I can’t begin to enumerate the nationally well-known artists I have met who thought I was impressed by what they did for a living, as opposed to someone who is a CPA or whatnot. The assumption of course is false. There are two musicians I would give anything to meet. One died two hundred years ago and the other one hails from a town about two hours west of here: the right-honorable B.B. King. But the assumption here is I would presume that since the afore-mentioned well-known artists are starry-eyed for whatever they think is bigger than them at that moment that I must just as well be. I admittedly am a fan of good music. But had I moved anywhere to be around that, I’m afraid I would have to have moved elsewhere; perhaps London, New York or even Los Angeles.
Not too long ago I met a songwriter whose songs would be instantly known if I mentioned them. A Christian songwriter. He was at an artists event for an organization for which I am on volunteer staff. During the meet-and-greet afterwards I shared with him my appreciation of the effect his work had had on so many people. Largely because that is simply what one does in those situations. I was saddened however when I realized I had just met one of the seemingly most smug men I had met in some time. The next time we ran into each other it was a similar story. That is until he found out I was friends with someone he wanted to get to know, then that hand came out and he put on the biggest smile one could hardly imagine. Maybe those songs meant something to him in the past, but the weight of the words of those songs now seems lighter than a feather.
Nashville is a town full of frustrated people. The music industry here in many respects is second best to its counterpart in many other places. The phrase “Christian Music” has almost nearly become profane among youth for its mediocrity and unconvincing recital. One often gets the same feeling in this town he gets when he goes to an AAA baseball game. Sympathetic depression. So I think a lot of the artists here try to compensate by acting as though they were bigger than life. Not all, granted. I have several friends who are up-and-coming singers and musicians who really have their act together in their personal lives, lest you think that there is not any good to be found here. I am speaking more of the pervasive wind within this genre of the local artistic community and of the town. A googly-eyed also-ran-ism that makes a lot of people extremely self-absorbed, crotchety and even at times outright dysfunctional. Worse yet, not very fun. Nashville, lighten up…PLEASE
-Blogbat a.k.a. Martin
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